notes from book “if love is a game, these are the rules”
this book by cherie carter-scott is a good read, some notes:
Creating agreements:
begin by sitting down together and discussing what your shared intention is for your union. start by addressing a few basic questions, like what is the purpose of your union, what you intend to do to each other, and how you will care for your relationshisp establish rules and responsiblilities.
visiting yuyuan
kevin is having a good time in shanghai. one thing he likes is the subway station. today is the first day the line 8 opens its second phase stations. it goes all the way to the aerospace museum. we decided to take kevin for a ride. it goes from underground to ground (so called ??) at the last few stations. kevin had a good time. we then toured the famous yuyuan. kevin is like a little photographer shooting pictures like crazy. there are quite some good pics and i plan to create a album for pics taken by kevin.
[tba: pics]
a little brain teaser
I got a book about brain training in harvard which is said to help kids develop their analytical and emperical thinking. i asked kevin about one question, it is like this:
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there are eight coins above, the vertical row has 4 coins and the horizontal row has 5 coins. you can only move one coin to make both rows to have 5 coins. kevin spent some time but he finally got it after i gave him some hint.
the next one i ask him is a brain teaser, 一只狼在追一个男孩，碰到一条河，男孩不会游泳，也没有船，但是男孩却过去了，为十么？
kevin kept coming with ideas, jump over the river, drink a lot of water to float over, driving a plane, etc, the one a like most is: give the wolf a candie. the answer? 他昏过去了， but i like kevin’s answer better.
time cost and contents
these are the three factors that affects a project:
a product with fast delivery and minimum cost
人性的经典总结54句 (zt)
1、一个人炫耀什么，说明内心缺少什么。
2、一个人越在意的地方，就是最令他自卑的地方。
3、人都有以第一印象定好坏的习惯，认为一个人好时，就会爱屋及乌，认为一个人不好时，就会全盘否认。
4、人越是得意的事情，越爱隐藏，越是痛苦的事情越爱小题大作。
5、这个世界既不是有钱人的世界，也不是有权人的世界，它是有心人的世界。
6、婚姻的杀手有时不是外遇，而是时间。
7、当你再也没有什么可以失去的时候，就是你开始得到的时候。
8、学习要加，骄傲要减，机会要乘，懒惰要除。
9、童年的无知可爱，少年的无知可笑;青年的无知可怜;中年的无知可叹，老年的无知可悲。
10、人允许一个陌生人的发迹，却不能容忍一个身边人的晋升。因为同一层次的人之间存在着对比、利益的冲突，而与陌生人不存在这方面的问题。
11、一个女人喜欢一个男人时，她希望听到谎言;当一个女人厌恶一个男人时，她希望听到真理。
12、如果你借太多的钱给一个人，你会令此人变成坏人。
13、现代的婚姻是情感的产物，更是竞争的结晶。
14、敌人变成战友多半是为了生存，战友变成敌人多半是为了金钱。
15、有所得是低级快乐，有所求是高级快乐。
16、天才失败了就是蠢才!
17、世界上1%的人是吃小亏而占大便宜，而99%的人是占小便宜吃大亏。大多数成功人士都源于那1%。
18、人如果靠吃饭活着，那饭不叫饭，叫饲料。
19、中国人学美国人容易，中国人学中国人难。
20、一个人幸运的前提，其实是他有能力改变自己。
21、人的成长要接受四个方面的教育：父母、老师、书籍，社会。有趣的是，后者似乎总是与前面三种背道而驰。
22、经营自己的长处，能使你人生增值;经营你的短处，能使你人生贬值。
23、生命犹如一片绿叶，随着时间的流逝，慢慢变的枯黄，但他的叶脉还是那么清晰可见。
24、把事情变复杂很简单，把事情变简单很复杂。
25、如果是棵小草，即使在最好的企业里，你也长不成大树。果真如此，不如历经风雨，把自己培养成名贵花卉。
26、二十一世纪工作生存法则就是：建立个人品牌，把你的名字变成钱。
27、怕爹是孝顺，怕老婆是爱情。
28、没有不合格的学生，只有不合格的家长。
29、地球是运动的，一个人不会永远处在倒霉的位置。
30、我们可以躲开大家，却躲不开一只苍蝇。生活中使我们不快乐的常是一些芝麻小事。
31、有一种人只做两件事：你成功了，他妒嫉你;你失败了，他笑话你。
32、笨男人 笨女人=结婚;笨男人 聪明女人=离婚;聪明男人 笨女人=婚外情;聪明男人 聪明女人=浪漫爱情。
33、任何一个傻瓜都会引诱一个姑娘;但是知道怎样离开她只有成熟男人才能做到。
34、人有两只眼睛，全是平行的，所以应当平等看人;人的两只耳朵是分在两边的，所以不可偏听一面之词;人虽只有一颗心，然而有左右两个心房，所以做事不但要为自己想，也要为别人想。
35、企业一定要有偷不去、买不来、拆不开、带不走，溜不掉的独特资源。
36、失言就是一不小心说了实话。
37、真诚并不意味着要指责别人的缺点，但意味着一定不恭维别人的缺点。
38、人的本性就是贪婪，但没有贪婪社会就不会进步。
39、恋爱是想一个人的心，婚姻是拴一个人的心，爱情是吞一个人的心。
40、最好的进攻就是进攻自己。
41、人生的意义不在于拿一手好牌，而在于打好一手坏牌。
42、成功是一种观念，致富是一种义务，快乐是一种权利。
43、竞争，其实就是一种友谊，在对手的帮助下提高你的聪明度，害怕竞争的人已经输给了对手。
44、钱可以帮穷人解决问题，却帮富人制造问题。
45、把爱情投资在一个人身上，冒险;把爱情投资在许多人身上，危险。
46、世界上只有想不通的人，没有走不通的路。
47、真正的财富是一种思维方式，而不是一个月收入数字。
48、一个人想平庸，阻拦者很少;一个人想出众，阻拦者很多。不少平庸者与周围人关系融洽，不少出众者与周围人关系紧张。
49、婚后的男女莫不“喜出“”望外“。
50、三流的化妆是脸上的化妆;二流的化妆是精神的化妆;一流的化妆是生命的化妆。
51、“危机“两个字，一个意味着危险，另外一个意味着机会，不要放弃任何一次努力。
52、是英雄表现出来，是人才体现出来，是蠢才显现出来。
53、“总“要为爱人着想，“经“得起爱人唠叨，“理“应对爱人谦让，男人应当“总经理“。
54、三人行，必有我师，三剑客，必有一强，三角恋，必有一伤。
The way we were
this is a timeless and priceless sound, always give us something to remember in the past and something to look for in the future…
Yao helps lift Rockets to stable ground (zt)
this is an article from Yahoo! Sports about last night’s Rockets win over Lakers in the first game of the second round of NBA final, a good read…
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what a game, go yao-min!
it was a great game and Rockets out lasted the lakers in the second round match up. not many people think Rockets will win but it just happened.
100-92!
Yao ming scared every rockets fans with a late game knee knock down by kb. but he came back to the game and scored 8 points in the last few minutes and contribute big to the win.
After the game, kevin and chris all had a good idea about the tall guy with the number 11 on his back and start to chanting, go-yao-yakee-go
The post game interview by Yao ming is pretty fun too:
-Q: Did you think your team is underdog before the game?
-A: I dont know. I just learned that word couple of days ago.
-Q: How do you feel of the win?
-A: NBA says everything is possible.
哈哈
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spring break train ride
Kevin had a spring break week early april. I took him to a train ride trip to portland thur through saturday. this is his first real train ride and he is excited (to be accurate, this is my first train ride in usa also, and i am excited too). the trip from seattle to portland is scenary and beautiful, it travels along the pristine beauty of puget sounds elegant water, then passes through the valley like majestic cascade mountains. the best place on train to view the scenary is the lounge car, it provides the seating in front of windows just like a cruise. we also had a dinner on the train in the dinner car, it is relaxing and kevin can spread out his drawing gig and took pictures outside the window. he also found some playmates on the train back to seattle and enjoyed playing games with them.